When I am facebooking and I find stuff I love to read I will save it in word document - but I really love this one so I'm sharing it with you. I found it at MIND BODY GREEN.
Relationships provide the opportunity to teach us many lessons.
Whether it's between parent-child, friends, or even strangers, we can
learn so much more about ourselves in relation to others.
some level, every relationship is sacred as it holds opportunity for us
to grow. However, there's something distinct about the intimate
relationship shared by lovers. Our partners are not defined by genetics
or familial bonds. We're not necessarily thrown into proximity by way of
work or school environments. We choose willingly to enter into
relationship with them. In addition, there's the added component of
Here are five characteristics of healthy, sacred relationships:
1. You can be yourself.
In a sacred partnership, you won't feel the need for self-censorship.
You feel free to show the spectrum of who you are and lose the masks
often worn in society.
Even though you may still feel
self-conscious about some of your behaviors, you work through your
hesitation and often end up laughing at yourself. In the presence of
this other, you are more accepting of the things you once tried to hide.
2. You maintain individuality.
though all barriers have been removed to allow room for your
significant other, you still find independence within the relationship.
Though you share many things together, you still have some of your own
interests and pursuits.
You are not reliant on the others
presence to fully function or feel whole, nor would your partner expect
or demand otherwise. Your partner supports and encourages your
individuality, as do you for them.
3. You have a mutual desire for personal evolution.
Consciously sacred connections always move in the direction of growth:
for the partnership and for each individual. A desire to impede the
growth of the other for one’s comfort is a manifestation of fear. Even
when one is concerned that the relationship may dissolve, they accept
that their paths may diverge for the benefit of both. Evolution is put
before personal gain.
4. You “hold space” for each other.
The art of holding space for another is rooted in love and respect. It
means listening to them wholeheartedly and letting them know by your
complete presence that they are seen and valued. It's not a space where
you try to fix the other person. It's about being witness to the
totality of your beloved.
5. You're peaceful.
Life doesn’t feel blissful all of the time, nor will any relationship.
However, the majority of time spent together will be peaceful.
Interactions with each other will leave each party feeling invigorated
as opposed to drained.
An undercurrent of anxiety is not
desirable to either individual. Though there may be stressful situations
(schedules, children, relatives, job demands, etc.) both parties are
committed to reinforcing their bond with minimal friction.
conclusion, highly sacred relationships present a number of
characteristics. These qualities can be seen in all types of
relationships, but meet specific challenges in the romantic realm. Some
unions will last a lifetime and others are brief. The one thing all have
in common is that they provide some of the most transformative
interactions you can experience.
love ya! Messy Jess